So it seems like I am about to lose my job next week.
Rent is going to be a problem.
I could go on and put the blame on myself, my boss, my job, etc
But that won’t change a thing.
So I have done this so far
1) Spoken to the universe about what I want
2) Applied for jobs
3) About to schedule a day off this week so I have a long weekend to write a book (self publishing on Amazon)
4) Cried a little
5) Felt hopeful a little
6) Taken one step at a time
I have to stay strong.
Minimalist sacked on the day before she was about to announce going handbag free. Now i think I will need that handbag to store kleenex tissues, just in case.
There are just a few things in life we can afford to be lazy about that ends up benefiting us than doing something about it. Here are some good examples of mine.
1. Arguments: more often than not are unnecessary, pointless and a relationship strainer. When you are confronted with a hostile situation, it would be far smarter to not say a word and let the other party rant on. They’ll be sure to feel pretty stupid screaming their head off others. When people rant, they are giving you ammunition to use back against them by revealing their real thoughts and frustrations. By responding, you are neutralising the situation by offering your weaknesses to them. So why not just let the other party say what they want while you remain cool, calm, collected and unbothered?
One of the 48 Laws of Power in Robert Greene’s book is “Always Say Less Than Necessary” and he explains this
“Humans are machines of interpretation and explanation; they have to know what you are thinking”. This is the fundamental principle behind the fourth law. The more you talk, the more information you give away and thus, the more your power decreases. This is because by talking, we reveal our intentions, biases, quirks and personality (basically revealing who we are). When this information reaches the ears of other people, it can be used to stop your plans, it can be used against you or it can be used to gain your favour.
On the other hand when we say less than necessary, we put others on the defensive. The silence will make them uncomfortable and as a result, they will try to fill in the void with comment and talk. In the process they will reveal something about themselves, which you can later use against them.”
2. Friends: I think that people you should be friends with are those who accept you for who you are. It doesn’t matter if you could be polar opposites. Mutual respect and love is often gained between parties when they accept each other’s opinions and personalities as they are. In reality, friends come and go, so there is no point making any effort for those who are not accepting of you, you shouldn’t have to worry about what others think. At the end of the day, we were born alone and we will die alone. The only way to be truly content is to accept the self as it is and be confident in it. The right friends will stick to you, the ones that are not good for you will leave. You don’t need to make any effort for anyone but yourself.
3. Insecurities: For each time we say something or think something negative about yourself, you could just banish the idea or postpone it to another day (and when that day arrives, postpone it again.. and again…) Why make effort to dwell on your insecurities? Be lazy about them. Procrastinate on your insecurities and go play a video game or do something frivolous instead.
4. Eating Junk Food: (Personally I am still working on being lazy about this law…. But..) You are on the couch watching telly and you want to get beer and crisps or something equally bad. DON’T. Tell yourself you are too comfortable to shift your butt off the couch and stay there, repeat in your head “It’s too comfortable on the couch, I cannot move and I won’t move”. Then fall asleep watching tv and wait till dinner or breakfast or whatever and have a proper meal. J
P.s. You have to tell yourself you are too lazy to ask your husband or wife or maid to get the beer for you too in case there are people at home.
5. Keeping up with the Jones: Impressing others is often a lot of work and money. Let the others buy their fast cars and expensive bags. You are too cool to play that game. You prefer watching the scene and laughing at the losers who are fighting to look more well-off than the others. Aren’t they an embarrassing lot?
Ok. So these are just 5 of the most random things I can think of to be lazy about. But in general we can all afford to be lazy (and minimalist) about negative things. Why make effort to believe in negativity? J
Stay lazy peeps. ;-)
If you are looking for a bag that gets softer and softer, allows you to put an adequate amount of stuff, looks chic and functional at the same time, well made, timeless, i highly recommend my bag, ”Billy” by Parisian brand Jerome Dreyfuss.
I live in humid singapore and by some miracle, the leather has remained soft (and got softer) still smells great unlike other bags i have owned and the stories of other people’s expensive Chanels, Proenza Schoulers, Mulberrys, etc… I have heard about.
I believe in buying things in the long term. This baby is my long term relationship. :-) He comes in many cool utilitarian colours.
The best thing is, not many people know of this brand yet. ;-)
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